PadawanOfHappiness

Prior to listening to episode 284 I felt that so many in the world (including myself) were going through some form of Obliger-rebellion since obligers are the largest group of the four tendencies in her frame work. Rubin has found that most people fall into the Obliger category. Rebels tend to be the smallest group.  Source Business Insider I feel it because even with the controlled opening of my state it is still so restrictive, the rules are changing, and you are almost always being judged.  While some people will find you lacking and others will approve your actions, the end result is that it is exhausting.  So exhausting that I really want to give the big old 'bird' to everyone and everything just because I am stretched so tight that I am ready to snap at any moment. Obliger-rebellion occurs when Obligers meet, meet, meet, meet expectations, and then suddenly -- they snap . They say, "This, I will not do!" and they refuse to meet an expectation. This refusal ca...

I go through phases of energetic de-cluttering and then fizzle, really what I have is a serious case of start-itist.  I have been looking around my house and it is overwhelming the toys, the clutter, the paper, the workstations that are ok, but not the best solution. Right now I am trying to capitalize on my energy and have started in one room to prepare it so that is is better organized and more conducive to using the space as a dedicated space for the kids for distance learning.  This is my happiness hack, de-cluttering is giving me a sense of happiness and calm. I took this messy table and worked with my young Padawans to clean out some of the papers, broken toys, and random things.  We tosses, returned things to their proper place, and put things in bins. I then assembled larger shelves to make the table higher and therefore more useful, the kids can stand, or they can sit on a stool. To finish this project I need to do a bit more de-cluttering of papers, and add a fe...

Yeah I like it warm, some would say hot but I really don't like it when the temp gets over 87, lower at higher humidity levels.  Two members of my family do not deal well with the humidity at all, and two of us aren't fans but we do not wilt in the same way. When the heat is getting to me, I try to remember the positives of the heat.  Ok maybe that is just the singular positive. My laundry dries very quickly!   While I was in NJ helping with a clean out I came away with two Instapot cook books/magazines (I cannot find links for them online) and Slow Cooker Revolution magazine from America's Test Kitchen, specifically FOOLPROOF EASY-PREP RECIPES.   So I guess a second positive is that I had motivation to go through the recipes and create a menu because the though of the heat made me want to just punt on cooking.  Short term fine, but in the long term not really a good idea.  Needless to say I made up a menu and am about to make some new recipes, and one old ...

I have accepted that my kids are not going to daycare/camp this summer, I am sure that I could get them in somewhere but honestly it is too much of a hassle and since we stopped contributing to our child care account and can roll over that money it seems to make sense to just let this go. My school district has announced that they will re-open in the fall, woohoo!  Then they sent home a survey about how comfortable we are with this plan.  I sort of expected this and knew that school wouldn't be a sure thing.  I could decide how I would react to this, I could spend the next month and a half with thoughts of dread, anger, and frustration or I could look for ways to make the best of it while I had time on my side. The way we have set up the home office and had the kids doing school work for the last 1/3 of the year will not work.  Mr. Padawan has expressed frustration at the clutter in the office (and elsewhere) and it is driving him nuts.  Honestly it is driving m...

Wow I looked back and my last post was pre Memorial Day!  So much has happened, good and bad.  My emotions and thoughts have been all over the place, I have had questions I don't dare ask because I am afraid of backlash from simply asking a question.  I have to believe that I am not the only one that has been in this position.  The question is what do I want to do about it? Some of my questions are admittedly more of a devil's advocate question and some are actual curiosity, but I don't see this time being accepting of either type of question.  But I have determined what I think is the right course for me, which may be different than what is right for someone else.  I am troubled by things that are going on in the world and specifically in the US, I feel that there are too many loud voices at the extreme; from both the 'Left' and the 'Right'.  They are prohibitively loud and drown out the voices that are looking for commonality to celebrate and use tha...