Comment on episode 284 and Obliger Rebellion

Prior to listening to episode 284 I felt that so many in the world (including myself) were going through some form of Obliger-rebellion since obligers are the largest group of the four tendencies in her frame work.
Rubin has found that most people fall into the Obliger category. Rebels tend to be the smallest group.  Source Business Insider

I feel it because even with the controlled opening of my state it is still so restrictive, the rules are changing, and you are almost always being judged.  While some people will find you lacking and others will approve your actions, the end result is that it is exhausting.  So exhausting that I really want to give the big old 'bird' to everyone and everything just because I am stretched so tight that I am ready to snap at any moment.

Obliger-rebellion occurs when Obligers meet, meet, meet, meet expectations, and then suddenly -- they snap. They say, "This, I will not do!" and they refuse to meet an expectation. This refusal can be small and symbolic (refusing to answer someone's emails or being deliberately late for work), or it can be huge and fateful (ending a twenty-year friendship, quitting a job, getting a divorce). Source Gretchen Rubin

With that in mind I was not surprised to hear on episode 284 about Liz's retainer problem, and I sympathized.  I am so there with her, not with the retainer but with other acts of rebellion.  The crazy thing is that there is no one way to act out your rebellion and mine might seem anti-rebellion to some.

I love lists, schedules, and 'the plan' I am not a fan of uncertainty and changes, I most definitely am not a fly by the seat of my pants kind of gal so these past 141 days have had some serious rough moments.  I have tried to be that person, and just let go and it worked to some extent but it was only temporary and then it made things worse for me.  You see I am at my best when I embrace my tendency and personality, not when I fight it. 

I acknowledge that there are times you have to fight your tendency, I did it and it helped but ultimately I have to get back to being me.  It is ok to temporarily swim up stream, because that time can give you the ability to see what is working and what is not and make tweaks to make you stronger.

So my rebellion is I am adding to my clipboard, I am planning, and making schedules.   I filled out my monthly menu for the first time in, well months.  It felt SSSSSOOOOO GOOD! 










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